hans.gerwitz

By now, close friends and family are all aware, so I can “publish”: I broke my engagement with Kristan on the 18^th.

While there’s nothing minor about ending a 5 year rela­tionship scheduled for marriage in another year, it has been remarkably facile. All of my stress was expe­ri­enced over the last two months, agonizing over the decision and antic­i­pating the judgement of our friends. I’ve been amazed at their objective assess­ments and concern for my well-​​being.

The reasons behind this are too extensive, nuanced, and personal for a blog post, but are also far less juicy than the rumor mill is reporting. I don’t know whether believing there are scan­dalous causes will make this easier or more difficult on Kristan.

While I am racked with guilt over the pain she is expe­ri­encing, there are no regrets and no doubt that we will both now grow more fully.